Improving Self-Esteem: Believe You Can Do It
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Self-esteem as defined, “a feeling of having respect for yourself and your abilities,” is basically the way we value and respect ourselves.
There are moments when hate seems to cloud us, and we blame ourselves. On some days, you feel that nobody likes you. On most days, you feel alone and unwanted. Unfortunately, there is a short supply of confidence in today’s society. Undermining one’s own abilities has almost become a current trend of sorts—too much self-depreciation is never a good thing.
It’s normal to have occasional off-days, but habitual self-hate is something one should not maintain. Low self-esteem makes you second guess everything in life, therefore creating additional stress. Although having low self-esteem isn’t categorized as a mental health problem in itself, it is something that we should nurture. Some experiences, such as constant feelings of hopelessness and self-loathing, can lead to depression and mental health problems.
Fortunately, there are ways to build self-esteem and be more confident.
Quit the negative self-talk.
True, we are our own worst critics. However, it isn’t an excuse to put ourselves down constantly. Sure, we all have insecurities, but it’s up to us on how to embrace them. Substitute the negative thinking by enforcing a more positive internal dialogue. Instead of saying “I can’t,” learn to say “I can.” Be your own cheerleader—a little verbal encouragement goes a long way.
Stop assuming the worst.
Jumping to conclusions will only stress you out even further.
Do what makes you feel good and happy. Go out and have fun with yourself. Celebrate your accomplishments. It isn’t as selfish and inconsiderate as some people think it is.
Quit the constant comparisons.
The “I’m not good enough” mentality should be disposed into the garbage bin.
Throw perfection out the door.
It is nothing but an idea that will only cripple your self-esteem. The feeling of inferiority will only hold you back. Just keep your head up and continue doing your thing.
Be with people who love you.
Do yourself a favor by staying away from destructive and toxic humans who do nothing but put you down. Surrounding yourself with the ones who love you makes life a little lighter and happier.
Learn to say “no” sometimes.
Not saying “yes” to every invitation is perfectly fine. Just remember to never give in to pressure. Besides, you wouldn’t want to be forced into doing things you don’t want to do, right?
Continue to be kind to everyone.
Even if the rest of the world seemingly isn’t, be kind to everyone. This will pay off in the long run. If you’re nice to people, chances are, they’ll treat you just as you deserve to be treated.
Remember that enhancing self-esteem doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time for it to build and grow. Once it does, you’ll become the best version of yourself.